Would the small gay boy you once were look up to the gay man you've become?This is the question Dr. Joe Kort explores in 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives (completely revised and updated edition) as he guides readers through the complex journey of becoming a fully self-actualized gay man. Learn the five biggest mistakes gay men make when seeking a relationship. Understand how to deal with loved ones who disapprove of your being gay. Overcome damaging patterns that are holding you back from enjoying a healthy sex life. Learn how to identify your own internalized homophobia, a chronic issue that prevents many gay men from leading satisfying lives and keeps them from having healthy relationships.This updated and revised edition is more sex positive than the first edition and includes a new chapter on exploring erotic turn ons and sexual interests. Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) is also addressed for those struggling with sexual issues.After coming out, a gay man will typically feel better at first, but often the good feelings don't last. This is because "coming out" is only part of the beginning of the journey. This book provides a map for navigating the whole long passage of becoming the gay man you want to be.

We all have an erotic code. Your peak erotic experiences and fantasies have coded information about you that can help you understand yourself better. Through this book, you'll see how nonsexual narratives exist in your sexual interests that will help crack your erotic code. You will learn how to have a sex-positive attitude toward your sexual fantasies and minimize any shame you carry about your erotic interests.