Mating in Captivity examines the tension between emotional security, domestic life, and erotic desire in long-term relationships. Drawing on Esther Perel's clinical experience as a psychotherapist, the book explores why sexual desire may diminish even in loving relationships and discusses ways couples can maintain intimacy, passion, curiosity, and erotic connection. The twentieth-anniversary edition includes a new preface in which Perel reflects on the origins of the book and cultural changes since its original publication.

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Linda Jaivin gets a spanking as she interviews the manager of an S&M club. She steps into a kickboxing ring, and wears a penis for a week to find out how it feels to be a man. 'When I'm writing non-fiction,' she says, 'I tend to get into character.' In this hilarious and outrageous book, Jaivin describes the effects of PMT and tells the terrifying story of her friend the axe murderer. She reveals why she loves younger men and why sex makes her laugh. She takes us backstage at a Beijing rock concert, explores the secretive world of Chinese gays and lesbians, and gives an astonishing account of what happened the night the tanks rolled into Tiananmen Square. In Confessions of an S & M Virgin Jaivin will tie you to your chair and make you laugh and cry and laugh again.

As many as one in three long-term marriages in America are sexless, and most people accept this as the inevitable course of a romantic relationship. In this groundbreaking book, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach explains why the prioritizing of love and companionship in marriage is all wrong, and why we should not go quietly into that dark night of celibate marriage. It is not love, Rabbi Shmuley shows, but lust that is the glue of a marriage. In this book you will learn how to restore lust to its rightful place as the central pillar of marriage. You will learn about the three principles of lust, and how to tap into them to keep the flames burning in the family hearth. Finally, you will discover the incredible emotional and spiritual potential of the intimate marital bond. In a wide-ranging discussion that plumbs the depths of the erotic mind, Rabbi Shmuley delivers a revolutionary message with the power to completely transform your most important relationship.

Why Men Have Affairs dicusses ten different profiles of affairs and offers practical solutions to heal the marriage and promote recovery. The motives driving each of the profiles is explained and identifying characteristics are provided. Find your situation here and improve your relationships. If you are the mistress, then discover what your prospects are of becoming the wife.

Love, Sex, and Your Heart elucidates how emotional life and physical being are one, mutually reflective as two sides of a coin. Emotional life is tied to physical being and physical health is dependent on emotional well-being. Alexander Lowen's insight into these powerful connections offers an innovative approach to cardiovascular health and the treatment of heart disease. Lowen examines the feeling of love as a physiological process in the body. When this process is frustrated, as in the case of heartbreak or isolation, especially during childhood, people suppress their pain by unconsciously rigidifying their chest muscles. This results in a chronic restriction of breathing, movement, and feeling. It is this tension that limits pleasure, and predisposes so many to heart disease. This book features the principles and therapeutic techniques to help people understand their fear of love, release chronic muscular tension, and become more loving. It is essential reading for health professionals and anyone interested in the health of the heart.

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When should a girl have sex-and with whom? Should you wait until you are married, or is it OK to have sex with your boyfriend if you love him? Or is it OK to have sex with someone you just met? There used to be clear rules about sex, but not anymore. Should a girl just do what she wants? Do what her friends do? Do what people in the movies do? Is there no real right or wrong about sex? The only people who claim to have clear answers are likely to be religious. But what if you're not religious? Is there no way to work out what's right?This book is written for people who may not be religious but who want answers. The insights in this book come from a deep study of human nature and human psychology. These insights do point to rules and guidelines-rules that can help you avoid heartache and lead you to happiness.It turns out that there is wisdom in the traditional view of when to have sex, but the traditional view was nothing but rules: "Do this! Don't do that!" Rules without explanations mean nothing.After you read this book you can follow those rules or not, but you will at least know where they come from.Sex is powerful, and can bring great joy, but it can crush you and break your heart. This is a book of advice on how to find the joy and avoid a broken heart. It is only 90 pages long, but your happiness may depend on whether you read it or not. About the Author:Samuel Taylor was part of the "sexual revolution" of the 1960s. He experienced the excitement but also suffered the dangers of what amounted to a complete rewriting of the rules about sex. He is also a keen student of psychology and human behavior. This book is based on the advice he gives his daughters, whom he loves more than anything else on earth.

In an irreverent, witty, and splendidly sensual voice, Dr.Susan Block lays down the laws for giving each other unequaled erotic pleasure. It takes more than learning new techniques to lead a sexually satisfying life: It takes knowledge of your partner's needs, hopes and fantasies. The 10 Commandments of Pleasure playfully leads you down the path to erotic delight - and provides you with the keys to unlocking each other's deepest desires. Follow these golden rules and learn: the power of giving pleasure, the 10 Commandments of a Lady's and a Gentleman's Pleasure, how to love the "Bonobo Way", how to discover and activate each other's personal "pleasure points", how to find the elusive "P" and "G" spots, how to be an "ethical hedonist", and how to have a "toegasm".

Now that lesbian marriage and lesbian couples are stepping into full recognition by culture and society, there is more pressure to succeed as a couple - and potentially a family. There is also the invitation to fill the age-old institution with a new spirit and new forms of living. When you fall in love, you want love and sex, as well as passion and intimacy to be around forever. And why not? Whether you are in a committed lesbian relationship, on the path to marriage or already married, you want to make sure your sexual attraction will never fade. You would like to receive all the blessings of marriage: sex and romance, closeness and tenderness, honesty and harmony... until death do you part. We all know that keeping sex and romance alive is not a piece of cake. Let this book help youalong in the spirit of frankness and humor. You will find stories, reflections, and "love & sexforever" tools. Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit offers couples: *Realistic and effective guidance to keep sex and romance hot *Shrewd advice and handy tools for the major challenges of lesbian marriage *Fun lists of what to do and not to do when faced with these challenges *Taboo-breaking revelations about what really goes on in bed *Encouragement to see the anxieties and pitfalls of lesbian marriage with humor *Reassurance that the new pressures to succeed in lesbian marriage can be met creatively ' Kim Chernin and Renate Stendhal are relationship experts, award-winning and bestselling authors who have written extensively about women's issues, love and sex. In Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit, their eye-opening insights illuminate long-term lesbian relationships and the new potentials of lesbian marriage. Order a copy of this groundbreaking, taboo-smashing book today and keep the spark of passion and romance alive for years to come.

If you are one of the millions of fans who've seen Annie on HBO Real Sex specials, you know her extraordinary blend of humor, earthy eroticism and spirituality. Even if you've never seen her perform, you're probably familiar with Annie's "bosom ballet" or "101 Uses for Sex". Whether you're a man or woman, straight or gay, you'll be thrilled to see these "greatest hits" from books and shows that are now rare and out of print. Each postcard book features a different selection of pictures of Annie throughout her years as a porn star, pin-up model, performance artist, sex-positive feminist and new age sex guru. There are also many of Annie's own well-known photos of famous sex-positive feminists including Susie Bright and Lily Burana or rock stars like Lydia Lunch and Kembra Pfahler. Don't miss her Transformation Salon ("before and after" pictures of her models), her exploration of erotic archetypes, as well as her classic "Anatomy of a pin-up photo", "Tit prints" and "Pornstistics" -- hilarious pie charts and bar graphs of the economics of sex work. Each volume has a different selection of eternally popular images, so you'll definitely want to order both. Erotic but not X-Rated, they will appeal to hip women and men alike wanting to find the perfect funny and hot gift for their Valentine -- or for the whole year thereafter!

El amor tal como se trata en este libro va más allá de atracciones sexuales, imágenes o ideas. Tiene que ver con la biología, con la sangre. Keleman habla del amor desde un punto de vista evolutivo, psicobiológico, somático. El amor es ante todo una verdad del cuerpo, una realidad somática. La intimidad se basa en compartir la excitación vital interna. El deseo y el altruismo están profundamente enraizados en la vida celular. Aprendemos o ignoramos qué es el amor en nuestro entorno familiar. Aprendemos a amar de niñ amamos como nos amaron y como nos enseñaron a hacerlo. Una respuesta de amor escasa, excesiva o equivocada durante las cuatro etapas básicas de la crianza, el cuidado infantil, el compartir adolescente y la cooperación juvenil, puede alterar la experiencia somática de la personalidad en cuanto a la forma de ser amado y originar en la etapa adulta un carácter rígido, denso, hinchado o colapsado. Estas alteraciones características de la forma natural de amar y ser amado, se reflejan de forma muy precisa en la relación de pareja y en todo caso pueden ser trabajadas en el recinto seguro de la psicoterapia corporal. Stanley Keleman (Brooklyn, Nueva York, 1931) es un psicoterapeuta estadounidense, pionero del estudio del cuerpo y su conexión con los aspectos emocionales, psicológicos, sexuales e imaginativos de la experiencia humana. Ha estado desarrollando la psicología somática desde los años 60. Vive en Berkeley, California, donde trabaja individualmente y con grupos en el Center for Energetic Studies, del cual es director. A través de sus escritos y de la práctica, impartiendo numerosos cursos también cada año en Europa, ha desarrollado una metodología y un marco de referencia conceptual para la vida del cuerpo.