17 results for "Relationships"

Eight dates: to keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting

Gottman, John Mordechai,Gottman, Julie Schwartz,Abrams, Douglas Carlton,Abrams, Rachel Carlton,Hardin, Lara Love
Happily Ever After is not by chance - it's by choice. John and Julie Gottman are cofounders of the Gottman Institute, bestselling authors, and award-winning researchers. Together, they have a deep understanding of what makes relationships work. Now, they bring that lifetime's worth of knowledge, research, and wisdom to bear in Eight Dates, a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. Eight Dates is written for any serious couple, and its dates are structured around the concepts of trust, dealing with conflict, sex and intimacy, having fun, work and money, children, and more. There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master. Because to make love truly last, each of you have to be involved and active.
Penguin Life 2019 231 pages

Love & survival: the scientific basis for the healing power of intimacy

Ornish, Dean
Our survival depends on the healing power of love, intimacy, and relationships. As individuals. As communities. As a country. As a culture. Perhaps even as a species. Ornish teaches that comprehensive lifestyle changes may begin to reverse even severe coronary heart disease without drugs or surgery. Perhaps the most powerful intervention is love and intimacy and the emotional and spiritual transformation that often results.
HarperCollins 1998 284 pages

Love in the time of contagion: a diagnosis

Kipnis, Laura
"A fiercely argued, keenly insightful, hilarious investigation of the impact of COVID-19 on sexual and romantic relationships, in which the author situates her own and others' coupled lockdown experiences against larger backdrop: the politics of the virus, economic disparities, changing gender relations, the ongoing institutional crack-ups prompted by #MeToo and #BLM"--
Pantheon Books 2022-02-08 210 pages

The birth of pleasure

Gilligan, Carol
Tracing a lineage from Greek mythology to our own most intimate relationships, Carol Gilligan asks why, generation after generation, we relive tragic stories of loss and betrayal, and sets out to create a radical new map of love. Within the sweep of this book, Gilligan takes us through novels and dreams, ancient legends and contemporary research to an illumination of modern couples in crisis. She shows us that, although the women's movements of the 20th century have challenged patriarchal structures, the underlying patterns remain: the early channeling of boys into "masculinity, " the double consciousness of girls in adolescence, the silences between men and women, the splits between our social and inner selves. In the haunting love story of Psyche and Cupid, Gilligan discovers a crucial tale of resistance--showing us that the path of pleasure can be found in the heart of tragedy, that joy and harmony can defy anger and pain.
Alfred A. Knopf 2002-05-07 253 pages

Why love hurts: a sociological explanation

Illouz, Eva
Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose of this book is to change our way of thinking about what is wrong in modern relationships. The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love. The argument of this book is that the modern romantic experience is shaped by a fundamental transformation in the ecology and architecture of romantic choice. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: all these aspects of choice have transformed the very core of the will, how we want a partner, the sense of worth bestowed by relationships, and the organization of desire. This book does to love what Marx did to commodities: it shows that it is shaped by social relations and institutions and that it circulates in a marketplace of unequal actors. -- Publisher description.
Polity 2013 293 pages

Jewish stories of love and marriage: folktales, legends, and letters

Sasso, Sandy Eisenberg,Schram, Peninnah
Jewish Stories of Love and Marriage offers a treasury of tales that speak to the tenderness and passion, difficulties and blessings of love. Jewish tradition overflows with love stories from the Bible, Talmud, and Midrash. Folktales continue the tradition, and contemporary writers highlight the way their faith and love interweave and enrich each other. From Adam and Eve to Song of Songs, from legends of Solomon to the letters of Alfred and Lucie Dreyfus, these are stories of heartbreak, devotion, and celebration. They tell of how people fall in love and how they grow in love. The narratives are as old as the Bible and as new as the twenty-first century. They come from places as far-ranging as Yemen and New York. The relationships are heterosexual and homosexual, arranged and spontaneous, young and mature. Though the stories reflect the times and places in which they were told, they have a universal message about longing and romance, relationship, respect, and commitment. Noted storyteller Peninnah Schram and Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso collect these narratives and letters for the first time, inviting readers to delve into these stories for entertainment and inspiration, at engagements, weddings, and anniversaries, to recall what once brought people close and what continues to hold them in love.
Rowman & Littlefield 2015-08-20 260 pages

The lifetime love and sex quiz book

Schwartz, Pepper
A Paperback Original. Who hasn't been dizzy with the prospect of romance? Now the most popular feature of Lifetimetv.com helps you put your love to the test. Do you fight fair? Should you stay, or go? Are you a flirt? These are just some of the topics covered in this quiz collection compiled by relationship guru Dr. Pepper Schwartz. The quizzes help readers analyze their feelings and actions objectively and help them improve their relationships using the solid advice offered by Dr. Schwartz. Is It Love or Lust -- Take the test! You're at a dinner party with a roomful of people when your partner tells a joke that falls flat. You: A) Turn a little red for him B) Laugh -- loudly, you don't want him to be embarrassed C) Chuckle, and remember again why you love his offbeat sense of humor (If you answered A, you're on the fence! The best answer is B. Your impulse to laugh despite the fact that your partner's funny joke tanked shows your desire to support and protect the one you love. If you answered C, you love him precisely because he's one of a kind. B & C are the answers of a woman in love, not in lust.) The 50 quizzes cover all aspects of your "love psyche" and are a fun and provocative tool for anyone who wants to be kissed by Cupid's arrow.
Hyperion 2002-06-12 225 pages

The alchemy of love and sex

Lozowick, Lee
Edited from 20 years of the author's teaching in both the USA and Europe, The Alchemy of Love and Sex articulates the immense conflict and confusion surrounding love, sex, the genders and tantric spirituality. Lozowick provides straightforward but not always comfortable or polite advice for those seeking clarity in their spiritual exploration. This nonfiction consciousness expanding book may revea[Bokinfo]
Hohm Press 1996 281 pages

Extravagant expectations: new ways to find romantic love in America

Hollander, Paul
The proliferation of dating websites, printed personals, and self-help relationship books reflects the new ways Americans seek close, personal relationships. Exposed to changing and often conflicting values, trends, and fashions--disseminated by popular culture, advertising, and assorted "experts"--Americans face uncertainties about the best ways to meet important emotional and social needs. How do we establish lasting and intimate personal relationships, including marriage? In Extravagant Expectations Paul Hollander investigates how Americans today pursue romantic relationships, with special reference to the advantages and drawbacks of Internet dating compared to connections made in school, college, and the workplace. By analyzing printed personals, dating websites, and advice offered by pop psychology books, he examines the qualities that people seek in a partner and also assesses the influence of the remaining conventional ideas of romantic love. Hollander suggests that notions of romantic love have changed due to conflicting values and expectations and the impact of pragmatic considerations. Individualism, high expectations, social and geographic mobility, changing sex roles, and the American national character all play a part in this fascinating and finally sobering exploration of the efforts of men and women to find love and meaning in life. --Book Jacket.
Ivan R. Dee 2011 251 pages

Object-choice: (All you need is love-- ) : on mating strategies & a fragment of a Freud biography

Theweleit, Klaus
Whom do we choose when we fall in love? How do we make the love-object into what we want? These are questions which only became important at the end of the nineteenth century, as Freud began to formulate a new discipline which would be called psycholanalysis. Freud argues Klaus Theweleit, was the first theoretician of the new situation: boy versus girl in the world series of love. Theweleit looks at a number of relationships: Alfred Hitchcock and Alma Reville; the triangle of Hannah Arendt, Martin Heidegger and Elfriede Heidegger; Jung and Sabina Spierlrein. But the key figure is Freud himself. Who would, who could Freud choose? As it happened, Freud proposed to Martha Bernays. The 1,500 letters of Freud’s courtship became something like the first psychoanalysis; without knowing it, Martha Bernays became an analytic-instance. But Object-Choice is not only a study of the founder of psychoanalysis, it is also an illuminating lexicon of love in the twentieth century. Freud is accompanied here by Jimi Hendrix, the Kinks and the Velvet Underground. Like Theweleits’s Male Fantasies , this is a collage book, mixing auto-biography, theory and pop culture, and always haunted by history, above all the history of Nazism. As an epilogue, Theweleit brings Freud back to the scene of his courtship, and the Beatles back to Hamburg, in an exploration of that city’s Wandsbek district, once home to an important Jewish community. His comments on the transformations and destruction that Wandsbek has endured form an elegiac tribute to German Jewry, and a powerful conclusion to this remarkable book.
Verso 1994-05-17 112 pages