Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. All of us have acted in anger -- and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough precepts of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) set forth in this book. Dr. Albert Ellis and Dr. Raymond Chip Tafrate present here their proven approach to helping people deal effectively with emotional problems and show you how to use their techniques to systematically understand the roots and nature of your anger. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, readers can learn to live unhysterically in an often difficult and unfair world. REBT will reduce angry reactions and help to challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.

In her remarkable national bestseller, Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst explored how we are shaped by the various losses we experience throughout our lives. Now, in her wise and perceptive new book, Imperfect Control, she shows us how our sense of self and all our important relationships are colored by our struggles over control: over wanting it and taking it, loving it and fearing it, and figuring out when the time has come to surrender it. Writing with compassion, acute psychological insight, and a touch of her trademark humor, Viorst invites us to contemplate the limits and possibilities of our control. She shows us how our lives can be shaped by our actions and our choices. She reminds us, too, that we sometimes should choose to let go. And she encourages us to find our own best balance between power and surrender.

NAMED ONE OF THE 100 MUST-READ BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY TIME MAGAZINE “A cheerful, mischievous rebuke to all that spiritual sincerity and floaty nonattachment and sugary loving kindness” ( The Wall Street Journal ), this first and only comprehensive examination of the universal, but widely misunderstood, practice of grudge-holding will show you how to use grudges to be your happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving self. Secretly, we all hold grudges, but most of us probably think we shouldn’t, and many of us deny that we do. To bear a grudge is too negative, right? Shouldn’t we just forgive and move on? Wrong, says prolific crime novelist and self-appointed grudge guru Sophie Hannah, in her groundbreaking and irreverent self-help guide. Yes, it’s essential to think positively if we want to live happy lives, but even more crucial is how we get to the positive. Denying our negative emotions and experiences is likely to lead only to more pain, conflict, and stress. What if our grudges are good for us? What if we could embrace them, and use them to help ourselves and others, instead of feeling ashamed of our inability to banish negative emotions and memories from our lives? With contributions from expert psychotherapists as well as extracts from her own extensive catalog of grudges, Sophie Hannah investigates the psychological origins of grudges and also offers not-so-obvious insights into how we should acknowledge—and embrace—them in order to improve the quality of our interpersonal relationships and senses of self. Grudges do not have to fill us with hate or make us toxic, bitter, and miserable. If we approach the practice of grudge-holding in an enlightened way, it will do the opposite—we will become more forgiving. For fans of Sophie Hannah’s bestselling crime novels who have ever wondered what is going on in her unusual, brilliant mind, How to Hold a Grudge is “a perfect document” ( The New York Times ) that also reveals everything we need to know about the many different forms of grudge, the difference between a grudge and not-a-grudge (not as obvious as it seems), when we should let a grudge go, and how to honor a grudge and distill lessons from it. Hannah’s practical, compassionate, and downright funny guide can turn us into better, happier people.

A guide for dealing with personal crises, either for self-help or as an accompanying book for a course, teaching methods for averting personal crises and for recovering from the ones experienced. It covers the four main areas of life that are the foundation for happiness: mental health, spiritual balance, personal finances, and lawful-ethical behavior. Although this book's audience can include anyone, it is focused on common issues for four main categories of people: adolescents, those afoul of the law, midlifers, and the elderly. Each lesson in the book includes exercises and worksheets to help the reader in several ways: Identify personal risks that can turn into crises, Assess the likely causes of an existing crisis, Formulate strategies for avoiding and managing crises, and Create an action plan for recovering from an ongoing crisis. These are imparted by four accomplished experts in their fields who give you actionable insights for achieving happiness: Dr. Peter Tarlow, a world-renowned speaker and columnist writing about philosophy and religion, discusses spirituality; Dr. Tom Marrs, a licensed psychologist and behaviorist, shows you what you can do to attain and maintain good mental health; Dr. Eduardo Leite, a management and finances expert, helps you establish essential personal finances; and Nathaniel Tarlow, a successful civil and criminal defense attorney, explains how society and laws affect you before and after a personal crisis. By the end of Personal Reconstruction, the reader have a good understanding of the psychological, spiritual, financial and legal factors that affect happiness. The reader will also know which actions to take before suffering a crisis, and will have tools and strategies for recovery that can be applied after experiencing a personal crisis that is not averted .